Why do crossdressing websites and groups focus and term their advice on how to ';pass'; or ';blend in';?

i love seeing advice, however i would rather see it titled or referred to as something else.....


maybe ';how to gain more of a positive reaction'; or ';how to reduce the chance of negative reaction'; in the public eye.


in my opinion, the term ';passing'; is a term that gives the person a false mind set that could lead to major heartbreak or stress when confronted.Why do crossdressing websites and groups focus and term their advice on how to ';pass'; or ';blend in';?
I think the reason is because crossdressers would like to venture out while dressed up, but because of the stigma with crossdressing, they want to go undetected. While some crossdressers can pass extremely well, they are a minority. The key to crossdressing comfortably in public is not so much passing but being self-confident and knowing what kind of look works well for you. That and it would help to remove the stigma surrounding crossdressers.Why do crossdressing websites and groups focus and term their advice on how to ';pass'; or ';blend in';?
Don't know - just avoid toddlers and teenage girls- they can usually read a CD... the ideas behind them are to be less ';readable'; as a male and to be viewed as female...





to reduce negative reaction if/ when you are read- you better have well planned measures in place





positive reaction- most people will oppose anything out of characteristic ';norms of society';





The real lessons should be on how to diffuse situations when you are read and too many Cd's focus on passing and look way overly done- why do all of the make up tips have you leaving the house looking like a queen and not a girl?





Keep searching sites and find M2F TG, GG and other CD's to help and have fun.
HI,


Being a long time c/d - t/v myself, and in reference to your TWO postings... Isn't the whole thing behind crossdressing to make ourselves happy....??? Who gives a rat's behind what others think or make read into anything..


To thine ownself be true...!!! Being accepted is the main thing about crossdressing... Sure if you look like a duck, and walk like a duck, and quack like a duck, - you're a duck. If one is a ';bow-wow'; then one shouldn't basically go out dressed for your own good and save riducule, but if you're at least semi feminine looking, I say go for it, and try to be accepted, and if you as they say ';pass'; so much more the better. But again, to be accepted wherever, is the key.


Regards,





Rachelle In High Heels
Actuallyl, cross-dressing is no fun if you pass perfectly, then you don't have the kind of shock and awe powers that I have. I never have passed, but that never stopped me from going shopping at the Malls, going to Restaurants and showing off my figure. It may not be an hourglass [closer to a irregular ellipsoid] but by the gods, it's all I have to work with. I do sometimes envy those that pass with perfection [perhaps only 2% have this awesome power] but therein lies potential danger for the unwary. I wouldn't recommend hanging out at straight bars and picking up straight men, because the risks are not worth it, even if you could do it.





I look like a Dyke and just the other day I was at the Mall and some white dudes yelled out ';******* Dyke'; and I just smiled thinking ';Well, close, but no banana...';
I think that is just how you look at it i feel that its important to blend in and to me no matter how it was worded confrontation may or may not happen it depends on were you go and who you hang with but confrontation shouldn't be your main concern do what makes you happy
Just get out there and do it !


Real girls don't follow rules so why should t girls?